Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a member
of the opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick outline
on how you should go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes
not so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your approach.
The Approach
One person approaches the other. They move into closer physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO possibility
of initiating contact. You must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee shop,
or a man stands near a woman in a dance club. This is the first step.
Once you approach, you begin looking for the signs.
The Signs
The person who has been approached will always signal the
other's presence in some way?a sign. This signal is not like a train
whistle, however, more a subtle body language which you can
learn to recognize. For example, he or she simply may look up,
move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal with a
glancing eye contact.
A display of total obliviousness to the one who is approaching
generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Don't be discouraged.
But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then it's
time to re-group and try again. But let's say the approach works.
You have your positive acknowledgement, now what?
Time to talk
The Verbal Exchange
The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange about impersonal, unimportant matters such as the weather or the scene
around them. The key word here is MILD.
This is the classic place for the clever "line," but cleverness is not
required. At this point, a verbal exchange is not for the purpose
of sharing valuable insights about life or determining
philosophical compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further
the developing contact.
Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything from
"please pass the pickles" to "your looking great tonight", to
"have you seen the waitress?". Without some form of verbal
response, it is highly unlikely that the next step will occur.
Let's say all is going as planned. Time for body language.
Body Language
Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to talk may also
begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn
toward one another until, if all is goes well, they are fully
facing one another. This is your goal.
This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks or months . . .
to achieve. Yet, without this physical reorientation toward one
another, not very much can ever happen, so give up on people
who turn their back toward you for long periods of time!
But if they don't?
Touching
The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other
in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush
their hands against one another while reaching for a drink, or the
woman might pat the man on the arm in the middle of a shared joke.
The exchange of very subtle, almost glancing touches may continue
for some while, and if all goes well, can escalate into the casual
affections shown by couples who are dating. If you've reached
this point, then flirting has now become the beginning of a
relationship. The Art of Flirting should always end with the
beginning of a relationship. Now get out there and flirt.
The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making first contact.
You only have one shot at making a great first impression.
By following some of the guidelines we've established in this
article, you should now be equipped to locate, approach,
and ascertain whether or not your subtle flirting has opened
the doors to a new and exciting relationship.
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